Who celebrates the good times and helps you through the bad times in your life? Who listens when you just had a fight with your spouse? Who sees the 'real you' and likes you anyway?
The answer to those questions can be summed up in one word: fFriends
Things change in life. Jobs and addresses may come and go but, if we're lucky, our friends stay with us throughout our lives, making each day better. No one knows that better than author BJ Gallagher, who has done it again with her latest book, Friends: The family we choose for ourselves.
This Friends is a celebration of friendship, with the centerpiece being BJ's original poetry. In Friends, BJ shares her thoughts on the ABC's of true friendship. Here's just one example from the Friends:
You're such a good influence on me.
You're like my coach,
my marching band
all rolled into one person.
Your confidence in me
gives me confidence in me.
I can never fail
with you in my corner.
I go for the goal
'cause you've got my back.
I give it all I've got
because you would expect nothing less.
Having you as my friend makes me a winner.
Friends is a book that you'll want to read...and more importantly, one you'll want to share with all of your friends in gratitude for their gifts of time, encouragement and support.
As BJ says, "...the heart is where we hold our friends - like precious gems in a jewel box."
Take time to celebrate the friendships in your life with this one-of-a-kind Friends.
A friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things you can be. ~Douglas Pagels
Most of us don't need a psychiatric therapist as much as a friend to be silly with. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
Friendship isn't a big thing - it's a million little things. ~Author Unknown
A single rose can be my garden... a single friend, my world. ~Leo Buscaglia
Only your real friends will tell you when your face is dirty. ~Sicilian Proverb
The antidote for fifty enemies is one friend. ~Aristotle
In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit. ~Albert Schweitzer
A loyal friend laughs at your jokes when they're not so good, and sympathizes with your problems when they're not so bad. ~Arnold H. Glasgow
The friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you. ~Elbert Hubbard, The Notebook, 1927
A good friend is cheaper than therapy. ~Author Unknown
If a friend is in trouble, don't annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it. ~Edgar Watson Howe
The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend. ~Henry David Thoreau
A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down. ~Arnold Glasow
But if the while I think on thee, dear friend,
All losses are restored and sorrows end.
The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. ~Elisabeth Foley
It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend. ~William Blake
A friend is the only person you will let into the house when you are Turning Out Drawers. ~Pam Brown
One's friends are that part of the human race with which one can be human. ~George Santayana
A friend knows the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails. ~Donna Roberts
If I had to sum up Friendship in one word, it would be Comfort. ~Terri Guillemets
If a man does not make new acquaintances as he advances through life, he will soon find himself alone. A man should keep his friendships in constant repair. ~Samuel Johnson
True friendship comes when silence between two people is comfortable. ~Dave Tyson Gentry
You can always tell a real friend: when you've made a fool of yourself he doesn't feel you've done a permanent job. ~Laurence J. Peter
Friends are those rare people who ask how you are and then wait for the answer. ~Author Unknown
A friend is the one who comes in when the whole world has gone out. ~Grace Pulpit
One doesn't know, till one is a bit at odds with the world, how much one's friends who believe in one rather generously, mean to one. ~D.H. Lawrence
Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art.... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival. ~C.S. Lewis
Constant use will not wear ragged the fabric of friendship. ~Dorothy Parker
Some people go to priests; others to poetry; I to my friends. ~Virginia Woolf
There are big ships and small ships. But the best ship of all is friendship. ~Author Unknown
The best kind of friend is the one you could sit on a porch with, never saying a word, and walk away feeling like that was the best conversation you've had. ~Author Unknown
The language of friendship is not words but meanings. ~Henry David Thoreau
A true friend is one who thinks you are a good egg even if you are half-cracked. ~Author Unknown
Friends are kisses blown to us by angels. ~Author Unknown
It's important to our friends to believe that we are unreservedly frank with them, and important to the friendship that we are not. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
It is the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter. ~Marlene Dietrich
She is a friend of mind. She gather me, man. The pieces I am, she gather them and give them back to me in all the right order. It's good, you know, when you got a woman who is a friend of your mind. ~Toni Morrison, Beloved
Cherish the friend who tells you a harsh truth, wanting ten times more to tell you a loving lie. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
Friends can be said to "fall in like" with as profound a thud as romantic partners fall in love. ~Letty Cottin Pogrebin
Nothing but heaven itself is better than a friend who is really a friend. ~Plautus
If instead of a gem, or even a flower, we should cast the gift of a loving thought into the heart of a friend, that would be giving as the angels give. ~George MacDonald
A real friend is someone who would feel loss if you jumped on a train, or in front of one. ~Author Unknown
Silences make the real conversations between friends. Not the saying but the never needing to say is what counts. ~Margaret Lee Runbeck, Answer Without Ceasing
Love is like the wild-rose briar;
Friendship is like the holly-tree.
The holly is dark when the rose briar blooms,
But which will bloom most constantly?
Our most difficult task as a friend is to offer understanding when we don't understand. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
The friend within the man is that part of him which belongs to you and opens to you a door which never, perhaps, is opened to another. Such a friend is true, and all he says is true; and he loves you even if he hates you in other mansions of his heart. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Wisdom of the Sands, translated from French by Stuart Gilbert
We are not enemies, but friends. We must not be enemies. Though passion may have strained, it must not break our bonds of affection. The mystic cords of memory will swell when again touched as surely they will be by the better angels of our nature. ~Abraham Lincoln
Yes we are [friends] and I do like to pass the day with you in serious and inconsequential chatter. I wouldn't mind washing up beside you, dusting beside you, reading the back half of the paper while you read the front. We are friends and I would miss you, do miss you and think of you very often. I don't want to lose this happy space where I have found someone who is smart and easy and doesn't bother to check her diary when we arrange to meet. ~Jeanette Winterson, Written on the Body, 1992
It takes a long time to grow an old friend. ~John Leonard
He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare, and he who has one enemy will meet him everywhere. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
True friends stab you in the front. ~Oscar Wilde
Strangers are just friends waiting to happen. ~Rod McKuen, Looking for a Friend (Thank you, Carolyn.)
It is not so much our friends' help that helps us, as the confidence of their help. ~Epicurus
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares. ~Henri Nouwen
Before borrowing money from a friend, decide which you need most. ~American Proverb
The bird a nest, the spider a web, man friendship. ~William Blake
The tender friendships one gives up, on parting, leave their bite on the heart, but also a curious feeling of a treasure somewhere buried. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Southern Mail, 1929, translated from French by Curtis Cate
A true friend reaches for your hand and touches your heart. ~Attributed to Heather Pryor
But friendship is the breathing rose, with sweets in every fold. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes
Friendship is a sheltering tree. ~Samuel Taylor Coleridge
We are keenly aware of the faults of our friends, but if they like us enough it doesn't matter. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
Fear makes strangers of people who would be friends. ~Shirley Maclaine
What do we ask of friendship except to be taken for what we pretend to be - and without having to pretend. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
Friendship is Love, without his wings. ~Lord Byron, L'Amitié est l'Amour sans Ailes
But oh! the blessing it is to have a friend to whom one can speak fearlessly on any subject; with whom one's deepest as well as one's most foolish thoughts come out simply and safely. Oh, the comfort - the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person - having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. ~Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859
A true friend unbosoms freely, advises justly, assists readily, adventures boldly, takes all patiently, defends courageously, and continues a friend unchangeably. ~William Penn
We are the captains of our own ships sailing the sea of life, but in times of a stormy weather, you will discover true friends when they don't hesitate to be a lighthouse. ~Dodinsky, www.dodinsky.com
But friendship is precious, not only in the shade, but in the sunshine of life, and thanks to a benevolent arrangement the greater part of life is sunshine. ~Thomas Jefferson
A good friend is a connection to life - a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world. ~Lois Wyse
The best time to make friends is before you need them. ~Ethel Barrymore
I always felt that the great high privilege, relief and comfort of friendship was that one had to explain nothing. ~Katherine Mansfield
A friend can tell you things you don't want to tell yourself. ~Frances Ward Weller
There is magic in long-distance friendships. They let you relate to other human beings in a way that goes beyond being physically together and is often more profound. ~Diana Cortes
If you're alone, I'll be your shadow. If you want to cry, I'll be your shoulder. If you want a hug, I'll be your pillow. If you need to be happy, I'll be your smile. But anytime you need a friend, I'll just be me. ~Author Unknown
A friend accepts us as we are yet helps us to be what we should. ~Author Unknown
The friend who holds your hand and says the wrong thing is made of dearer stuff than the one who stays away. ~Barbara Kingsolver
Probably no man ever had a friend that he did not dislike a little. ~E.W. Howe
There is one friend in the life of each of us who seems not a separate person, however dear and beloved, but an expansion, an interpretation, of one's self, the very meaning of one's soul. ~Edith Wharton
I value the friend who for me finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
'Tis a great confidence in a friend to tell him your faults; greater to tell him his. ~Benjamin Franklin
The best rule of friendship is to keep your heart a little softer than your head. ~Author Unknown
If it's very painful for you to criticize your friends - you're safe in doing it. But if you take the slightest pleasure in it, that's the time to hold your tongue. ~Alice Duer Miller
Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive. ~Anäis Nin
Friends are relatives you make for yourself. ~Eustache Deschamps
Many a person has held close, throughout their entire lives, two friends that always remained strange to one another, because one of them attracted by virtue of similarity, the other by difference. ~Emil Ludwig
It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Without wearing any mask we are conscious of, we have a special face for each friend. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes, Journals, 1843
Ah, how good it feels! The hand of an old friend. ~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Mighty proud I am that I am able to have a spare bed for my friends. ~Samuel Pepys
A man's growth is seen in the successive choirs of his friends. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Hold a true friend with both your hands. ~Nigerian Proverb
Yes'm, old friends is always best, 'less you can catch a new one that's fit to make an old one out of. ~Sarah Orne Jewett
I lay it down as a fact that if all men knew what others say of them, there would not be four friends in the world. ~Blaise Pascal
Friendship is Love with jewels on, but without either flowers or veil. ~Augustus William Hare and Julius Charles Hare, Guesses at Truth, by Two Brothers, 1827
Say what you want about aging, it's still the only way to have old friends. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
Since there is nothing so well worth having as friends, never lose a chance to make them. ~Francesco Guicciardini
The best way to mend a broken heart is time and girlfriends. ~Gwyneth Paltrow
Friendship is one mind in two bodies. ~Mencius
Friendship needs no words - it is solitude delivered from the anguish of loneliness. ~Dag Hammarskjold
What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies. ~Aristotle
I have friends in overalls whose friendship I would not swap for the favor of the kings of the world. ~Thomas A. Edison
Men kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn't seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it goes to pieces. ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh
I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better. ~Plutarch
The essence of true friendship is to make allowance for another's little lapses. ~David Storey
Do not keep on with a mockery of friendship after the substance is gone - but part, while you can part friends. Bury the carcass of friendship: it is not worth embalming. ~William Hazlitt
In my friend, I find a second self. ~Isabel Norton
A friend is a person with whom I may be sincere. Before him I may think aloud. I am arrived at last in the presence of a man so real and equal, that I may drop even those undermost garments of dissimulation, courtesy, and second thought, which men never put off, and may deal with him with the simplicity and wholeness with which one chemical atom meets another. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Enjoy the movie, 212 The Extra Degree, as a reminder that seemingly small things can make a tremendous difference.
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FRIENDS, the family we choose for ourselves
This book is a celebration of friendship and one you will want to share with all of your friends in gratitude for their gifts of time, encouragement and support.
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Make this week your team's week to go from good to great.
Vitamin F Why do I have a variety of friends who are all so different in character? How can I get along with them all? I think that each one helps to bring out a "different" part of me.
With one of them I am polite. I joke with another friend. I sit down and talk about serious matters with one. With another I laugh a lot. I may have a coke with one. I listen to one friend's problems. Then I listen to another one's advice for me.
My friends are all like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. When completed, they form a treasure box. A treasure of friends! They are my friends who understand me better than myself, who support me through good days and bad days. We all pray together and for each other.
Real Age doctors tell us that friends are good for our health. Dr. Oz calls them Vitamin F (for Friends) and counts the benefits of friends as essential to our well being. Research shows that people in strong social circles have less risk of depression and terminal strokes. If you enjoy Vitamin F constantly you can be up to 30 years younger than your real age. The warmth of friendship stops stress and even in your most intense moments it decreases the chance of a cardiac arrest or stroke by 50%.
I'm so happy that I have a stock of Vitamin F!
In summary, we should value our friends and keep in touch with them. We should try to see the funny side of things and laugh together, and pray for each other in the tough moments.
Thank you for being one of my Vitamins!
That's What Friends Are For
"One of the most beautiful compensations in life is that no man can help another without helping himself."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
This holiday season is the perfect time to start a ripple that can change the world.
The magic formula for putting more joy into your life can be summed up in one word - kindness. So take a moment from your busy holiday "to-do" list to perform a random act of kindness. You'll bring joy to your own life, as well as the lives of others.
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